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Goal: Move $10 to “Future-Me” and see a tiny budget.
Steps:

1. Move $10 to a new bank sub-account called Future-Me.

2. List your next 3 bills + dates.

3. Assign today’s money to only those bills.
   Script (to say out loud): “I don’t need a perfect budget. I’m paying the next three bills first.”
   You’ll know it worked when… you have $10 saved and a list you can see.

Goal: Calm your body enough to choose your next step.
Steps:

1. Inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 6 (x3).

2. Grounding: name 5 things you see, 4 you feel, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste.

3. Ask: “What’s one kind thing I can do next?”
   Script (steady voice): “Bodies get loud. I can help mine settle.”
   You’ll know it worked when… your shoulders drop and your breath slows.

Goal: Make home feel a little steadier tonight.
Steps:

1. Set a timer for 5:00. Phones down.

2. Each person answers: Rose (good), Thorn (hard), Seed (one plan for tomorrow).

3. End with one small promise (ride, check-in, bedtime).
   Script: “Let’s do a quick huddle. No fixing—just listening.”
   You’ll know it worked when… you leave with one promise you can actually keep.

Goal: Co-create 3 rules you can both live with.
Steps:

1. Each writes one worry and one hope about phones.

2. Pick three rules for this week (ex: no phones at dinner, dock at 9:30, ask before posting someone).

3. Choose one consequence you can calmly enforce (loss of data for 24h, or no social after 9:30).
   Script: “I’m aiming for safety and trust, not control. Let’s try this for a week and adjust.”
   You’ll know it worked when… the rules fit on a sticky note.

Goal: Reduce damage; rebuild trust faster.
Steps:

1. Regulate first (30 seconds of breathing).

2. Say what you own: “I raised my voice. That wasn’t okay.”

3. Offer a plan: “Next time I’ll take a pause. Let’s try again at 7.”
   Script: “I care about you more than I care about being right.”
   You’ll know it worked when… the conversation is shorter and calmer.

Goal: Know your next 3 tasks.
Steps:

1. Write target move-in month.

2. List the 3 documents to gather (ID, pay stub, references).

3. Open a notes page called Deposits & Fees and add three local places to check.
   Script: “I’m building this one tile at a time.”
   You’ll know it worked when… you have a date, a document list, and a notes page.